Parents Coaching
The French Approach to Education and Parenting
At French Consulting, we also offer parental coaching to help families adopt and implement the French educational philosophy at home. Known for its balance of firmness and encouragement, the French approach teaches children to embrace structure, a litle bit of discipline, and perseverance while also nurturing their personal growth and independence.
We bring you insights from the French educational system to help you adopt a balanced approach that works within your family’s lifestyle and goals.
"Une main d’acier dans un gant de velours"
The French Way of Parenting
"I'm sure you're familiar with the expression 'une main d’acier dans un gant de velours'—'an iron fist in a velvet glove.' I remember my father joking about this expression when, as adults, we discussed how he was always kind and fair with us, but also set clear boundaries. I think this approach can certainly be applied to education."
(Natacha, Founder of the French Academy)
“Une main d’acier dans un gant de velours” means for parents that while they show kindness and compassion, they also set clear boundaries and hold their children accountable. It’s about teaching kids that discipline and respect for rules are as important as encouragement and emotional support.
Our goal is to help you guide your child in a way that balances gentle firmness and positive reinforcement. Children learn to handle constructive criticism, accept feedback, and understand that doing things correctly—not just getting praise—helps them grow.
Teaching Boundaries and Perseverance
One of the key aspects of the French parenting style is helping children develop perseverance and a healthy attitude toward criticism. It’s important to let kids know when they’re doing something wrong, without being overly harsh, but also without letting them go unchecked. This approach encourages children to accept mistakes, learn from them, and do better next time. Mistakes are not failures; they are opportunities to improve.
Content
In our coaching sessions, we teach parents how to:
- Set Clear Expectations:
Don't be afraid to say "no" when something is not right. Teach your child that not everything is acceptable, and that they can correct their actions.
Encourage Perseverance: Instill a mindset that working through challenges and redoing things until they are right is a natural part of learning
-Building Healthy Habits
We also help parents instill healthy habits around eating, sitting at the table for family meals. In French culture, meals are a time for connection, conversation, and learning to eat more balanced. Parents encourage children to eat, not only to nurture their bodies but also to understand the value of gratitude and respect for food.